The Secret of The Secret
I met someone online who gushed to me about how great he thought "The Secret" is. So I checked it out. You can watch it online for a few bucks. What a joke! Think about something really hard and it will happen. Imagine yourself owning something you really want and you'll get it. Carry around a picture of something, look at it constantly, and it will soon become yours. How about I just cross my arms and blink or wiggle my nose? Yeah, the "Secret" is IT DOESN'T WORK.
Thinking about something won't make it happen. Maybe every once in a while, coincidence and circumstances might make it seem that way but come on, get real. If wishing made it so, this world would be a vastly different place now wouldn't it? I believe that living under false hopes can bring only disappointment and disillusionment.
DOING IS REALITY. If you want something, you have to do the things that will get it for you! Like achieving a state of positive health and physical ability! My trainer was telling me recently that she will have clients who pay her fees but then don't work out the rest of the week or who don't follow an appropriate eating plan. Sometimes people think throwing money at a problem will fix it. So they go out and buy the fancy treadmill or the expensive running shoes or maybe even they pay the high-end trainer. But the treadmill turns into a clothes rack and the running shoes are worn to the grocery store. And the trainer might as well be just like that ignored treadmill! Wasted money!
What's going on when you say you want something but then don't do the things you KNOW you have to do to get it? You think about certain results you want, but on a day to day basis you are unwilling to do the things necessary to achieve them. Losing weight and achieving results from exercise are definitely difficult to do and require extensive time and effort. Sure, it's very easy to have every good intention...until the boss orders pizza for everybody for lunch or your busy schedule doesn't lend itself well to prioritizing for working out.
You haven't accepted what needs to be done. You haven't decided that you want the results enough to do what needs to be done! You enable yourself; you lie to yourself. You feel guilt on some level and you do things to assuage it: You buy the treadmill, the shoes, the hours with the trainer or the gym membership. You overeat at lunch and convince yourself that skipping dinner will make everything alright. You cheat with "forbidden" nibbles here and there; you don't think it's much. But come the weekly weigh-in, that scale lets you know you're not making the right choices.
Did you ever dip your toe into a pool and decide it was too cold to jump in? You knew that if you did jump in and endured a few minutes' discomfort, soon you'd be acclimated to the water and enjoying yourself. Eventually you are tired of watching everybody else have fun and you go ahead and take the plunge. After the initial shock and deep gasping breaths from what feels like freezing water, you're splashing around and having a great time.
Constructive Living teaches that the dread of doing something and the work involved in avoiding it, can start to be worse than TAKING ACTION on what's being avoided. Undertaking an exercise and nutritional plan is like that. It IS difficult to get started! It IS difficult to work at it consistently enough and persistently enough to see results. But when you start to feel the payoff? It will all become worth it. Success will build on success with the discovery of every little benefit and you'll embrace the lifestyle changes that are increasing your energy, helping you to feel great, and causing your clothes to become loose and comfortable.
It's true, getting to that point takes a lot of work. I believe a good starting strategy is to take an unflinching look at what you use to enable yourself, then set about to undermine all your excuses.
Are you ready to jump into the pool?
Thinking about something won't make it happen. Maybe every once in a while, coincidence and circumstances might make it seem that way but come on, get real. If wishing made it so, this world would be a vastly different place now wouldn't it? I believe that living under false hopes can bring only disappointment and disillusionment.
DOING IS REALITY. If you want something, you have to do the things that will get it for you! Like achieving a state of positive health and physical ability! My trainer was telling me recently that she will have clients who pay her fees but then don't work out the rest of the week or who don't follow an appropriate eating plan. Sometimes people think throwing money at a problem will fix it. So they go out and buy the fancy treadmill or the expensive running shoes or maybe even they pay the high-end trainer. But the treadmill turns into a clothes rack and the running shoes are worn to the grocery store. And the trainer might as well be just like that ignored treadmill! Wasted money!
What's going on when you say you want something but then don't do the things you KNOW you have to do to get it? You think about certain results you want, but on a day to day basis you are unwilling to do the things necessary to achieve them. Losing weight and achieving results from exercise are definitely difficult to do and require extensive time and effort. Sure, it's very easy to have every good intention...until the boss orders pizza for everybody for lunch or your busy schedule doesn't lend itself well to prioritizing for working out.
You haven't accepted what needs to be done. You haven't decided that you want the results enough to do what needs to be done! You enable yourself; you lie to yourself. You feel guilt on some level and you do things to assuage it: You buy the treadmill, the shoes, the hours with the trainer or the gym membership. You overeat at lunch and convince yourself that skipping dinner will make everything alright. You cheat with "forbidden" nibbles here and there; you don't think it's much. But come the weekly weigh-in, that scale lets you know you're not making the right choices.
Did you ever dip your toe into a pool and decide it was too cold to jump in? You knew that if you did jump in and endured a few minutes' discomfort, soon you'd be acclimated to the water and enjoying yourself. Eventually you are tired of watching everybody else have fun and you go ahead and take the plunge. After the initial shock and deep gasping breaths from what feels like freezing water, you're splashing around and having a great time.
Constructive Living teaches that the dread of doing something and the work involved in avoiding it, can start to be worse than TAKING ACTION on what's being avoided. Undertaking an exercise and nutritional plan is like that. It IS difficult to get started! It IS difficult to work at it consistently enough and persistently enough to see results. But when you start to feel the payoff? It will all become worth it. Success will build on success with the discovery of every little benefit and you'll embrace the lifestyle changes that are increasing your energy, helping you to feel great, and causing your clothes to become loose and comfortable.
It's true, getting to that point takes a lot of work. I believe a good starting strategy is to take an unflinching look at what you use to enable yourself, then set about to undermine all your excuses.
Are you ready to jump into the pool?
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